YOUR DESIRE FOR THE OTHER... your longing that without the other, you will never be complete, IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE. And this is the insight of every human being; they are all right about this fact: that without the other you are not going to have a feeling of wholeness, of completion, of arriving home.
THIS FEELING IS ALL OVER THE WORLD. BUT WHY DOESN'T IT HAPPEN? Because man needs a new psychology to understand himself. The old psychology does not give him much understanding. The new psychology will be based on the experiences of a certain, most ancient school... TANTRA.
There are very few great discoveries in the world. TANTRA CAN CLAIM THE GREATEST DISCOVERY. Even after nuclear weapons, Tantra's discovery has been standing there for ten thousand years unused, an insight of such great value. The insight is that man and woman are not just one... man just man, woman just woman... no. They are both together: MAN IS HALF MAN AND HALF WOMAN, and the same is true about women.
And this seems to be very logical and very scientific, because EVERY CHILD IS BORN OUT OF A FATHER AND A MOTHER. The father contributes something, the mother contributes something, and that's how the child is a combination: A SYNTHESIS BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN. If the child is a boy, then the man is on top and the woman is in the unconscious layers of the mind. If the child is a woman, then the woman is on top and the man is hidden just underneath.
And this is the great contribution of Tantra: that UNLESS THE MAN AND THE WOMAN INSIDE YOU BECOME ONE WHOLE, YOU WILL REMAIN DISCONTENTED -- with something always missing. And because you always look outside, you feel that feminine qualities are missing. You don't know that there is a world within you too. You know only one world, and that is outside you.
YOU START LOOKING ON THE OUTSIDE, finding a woman or a man who can make a certain organic whole, a unity in your life -- so that this constant gap, this something missing, this heavy incompleteness in your being will be removed. You go on looking for the woman outside, for men outside.
BUT NOBODY HAS EVER FOUND any woman outside, or any man outside, to fulfill the desire -- the longing to become one complete whole.
But the basic understanding is right, that SOMEHOW MAN AND WOMAN HAVE TO MERGE THEIR ENERGIES INTO ONE. Just one thing is missing: that miracle can happen only within you, it is not something outside. It is something that as you become silent and peaceful and joyous, as you enter deeper into meditative states, as your intelligence becomes more sharp, you will see: THE OTHER THAT YOU HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR IS WITHIN.
And there is no problem with the inner woman, with the inner man. ONCE YOU RECOGNIZE THEM, THEY START MELTING INTO EACH OTHER -- without any effort on your part. Just your recognition is enough to trigger the process of the merger.
But meanwhile, before you meet your inner woman or man, find a man or a woman. You will learn much, this is not going to be the end. ALL MEN ARE EXPERIMENTAL FOR WOMEN AND ALL WOMEN ARE EXPERIMENTAL FOR MEN. Experimenting with few relationships, you will be mature enough to recognize your own woman or your own man.
AND THAT DAY IS THE DAY OF GREAT CELEBRATION, because you are free from the other -- you have found the other within yourself. NOW THERE IS NO NEED TO BE DEPENDENT ON ANYONE. The man is free, the woman is free...
AND THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU CANNOT LOVE, that you cannot have friends on the outside. In fact, now you can very easily have very smooth-going relationships, very beautiful love affairs, BECAUSE IT IS NO LONGER A NECESSITY FOR YOU. As far as you are concerned, you are fulfilled. Now it is not a need so that you have to be dependent.
ONCE YOU CAN LIVE ALONE AND JOYOUSLY, you have entered into the world for the first time. Before it, you were only dreaming. Now you will be facing the reality. And the reality is just ecstasy. NOW YOU CAN LOVE, but love will have a totally different quality: it will simply be sharing -- because you have too much, an abundance, overflowing, and you would like to share it.
AND SHARING IS ALWAYS UNCONDITIONAL. You are not giving it as a deal, as a business. You are not giving it to get something in return... you are simply giving it because your hands are too full. If you don't give it, it will fall by itself.
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